January 31st, 2022

I am not the Woman that has it all together. Even after 9 Months, the scars, the memories, the trauma is still fresh in my mind. Sometimes it takes me several days to write these posts. Sometimes I have to shut the laptop and walk away. But what I’ve learned is that I have support.Continue reading “January 31st, 2022”

December 18th, 2021

Hello Friends. It’s been a long time. I’m officially 8 months in from deciding to separate from my husband. It’s been quite a journey. This month I’m going to talk about my relationship status. That’s right, your girl has met someone.  That moment you change your Facebook relationship status, your whole life changes.  I madeContinue reading “December 18th, 2021”

November 10th, 2021

It’s now been 7 months since I decided to separate from my husband. Last month would have been 11 years married. Surprisingly, that day came and passed with very little feelings at all. No one goes into a marriage expecting it to fail, but some marriages are not meant to last. ***Caution*** If you orContinue reading “November 10th, 2021”

October 4th, 2021

Consistency Just like always, my ex has once again outdone himself with the special occasions. He was always great at remembering special dates, picking the right card, treats, etc. He really knew how to make me feel special on a special day. If only he put that much effort into ordinary days. Here it isContinue reading “October 4th, 2021”

8/9/2021

Putting it into practice “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”  Albert Einstein What have I learned since my last post?  During my last therapy session, my Therapist and I discussed why it is I keep finding myself in unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships.  She shared with me aContinue reading “8/9/2021”

July 29th, 2021

Disappointments Part 2of2 The Beach Trip My 2 daughters and my 16-year old’s best friend took a short girl’s trip to the beach a week ago. Of course, this trip was not without any issues. Story of my life. We stopped for breakfast on the way. The lady at the drive-thru handed me our drinksContinue reading “July 29th, 2021”

July 10th, 2021

Be Active Not Reactive It has taken me almost three weeks to write this blog post.  I’ve typed the post three times and each time I deleted it.  I’m currently struggling with self-blame.  I’ve been working with my therapist on it.  She tells me that I need to learn to have self-compassion.  She keeps tellingContinue reading “July 10th, 2021”

May 27th, 2021

Final Separation Almost one month from the date I found out my husband was continuing his relationship with the woman that was causing strife in our marriage, we were signing our separation agreement document. Thankfully, we were able to come to a mutual agreement on how to separate our lives, time with our child, andContinue reading “May 27th, 2021”

April 28th, 2021

The Betrayal This is the day that will be etched in my mind for the rest of my life. I fought so hard to save my marriage. But that day, was the day I said, “I just can’t do this anymore”. You see my husband of 10 years was having an emotional affair with aContinue reading “April 28th, 2021”