Have you ever gone through a marriage separation?
Did you know that in the State of N.C. it takes 12 months before you can file for divorce? It doesn’t matter the circumstances. Maybe there was betrayal, infidelity, trauma, abuse, maybe you were just unhappy, maybe it was amicable. Maybe like me, you spent all your time and energy trying to fix your marriage, trying to change yourself, trying to make the other person happy; that when you finally had enough it was because you didn’t even recognize yourself anymore. You felt empty and dead inside. Who wants to live that way?
Separating from your spouse is not easy. It’s actually gut wrenching and painful. Some people even say that the process of divorce is like grieving a death, except the other person is still living. You built a life with this person and now everything will change. There will be anger, blame, awkward silences, and empty stares. And if you have children, you will probably still see and interact with that person regularly.
“Divorce is probably as painful as Death”
So, why am I writing this blog?
Because we shouldn’t feel ashamed for choosing our own happiness. Not every marriage is salvageable. God is not mad at you, people will stop talking, your children are not doomed, and you are not broken. Have compassion for yourself. You did not fail. You can start over and claim your own identity. Learn to love yourself again.
This is my journey, start to finish, one day at a time. I will document the next 12 months of my life. I don’t know what the future holds for me. Maybe I’ll be divorced. No matter what the circumstances, I will be praying for healing and searching for true happiness.
Here I go……